So, I wanted to share her email so that anyone else there who is struggling will feel the strength of these words, know this prayer is also for them and find comfort in knowing they are not alone.
Heather,
I am just going to speak plainly here; your mom mentioned to me that you are having a tough time these days.
The
last time we spoke you told me that you were feeling apprehensive about
Christmas coming. I just want you to know that I will be praying for
you, that in the tension between what should be, and what is, there
might be a bit of peace and rest for you. I don't know what it's like
to lose a child, but I am not expecting that you would ever "get over
it"; so what I pray for is that the loss of Zackary will not hurt as
much as time goes on.
I will pray that there will be moments of joy and
peace for you and Paul and your beautiful Ty and Jayden.
I think you are an extraordinary woman and I hope your trip to New York with Paul restores your spirits.
Many thanks for your witness and your grace in the midst of grief.
May God bless you and keep you.
Susan
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| The Reverend Susan Spicer and Jayden at his Baptism |
Thank you Susan. Merry Christmas to you xo
That is a beautifully witten email. I especially like how she acknowledges that she doesnt know how it feels to lose a child, as I do not as well. I hope it has helped bring you some peace! I wise froend told me when my mom died that the pain never goes away but instead you learn how to deal with it in a way that is socially acceptable. I think it applies to many forms of loss, that pain doesnt disappear it instead changes (transforms) us. I hope 2015 brings you more happy moments than sad :-)
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